Parenting is a pretty tough job. It’s the longest-lasting job in the world with no breaks. The baby years are hard physically and emotionally with lots of sleepless nights. The middle school and teen years can be equally hard emotionally, knowing you only have so much longer to coach and teach before your child leaves home.
I’m a mom of 5 kids who has been parenting since my oldest son was born more than 19 years ago. I’ve learned a lot along the way like breastfeeding, cosleeping, potty training, managing homework time, and handling temper tantrums. I’m still learning with a first year college student who’s learning the adult responsibilities of managing student loans, college work, and finding a part-time job.
My Top 5 Parenting Posts for 2015
Parenting is a marathon journey. My tips for chores for kids, working with your child’s teacher, getting your kids outside, and helping your kids perform their best in the classroom were last year’s top parenting posts. I look forward to sharing more tips from my own successes and failures this year.
Deciding on chores for kids by age can be overwhelming, especially for newer parents. Every few months, an age-appropriate house cleaning chore list for kids makes the rounds of Facebook. Parents ooh and ah over the list and vow to have their little ones doing all these jobs. Then, reality sets in. A 2 year old cannot put away toys by themselves. They need adult supervision. Actually, they need an adult to work with them. They have the attention span of a child, after all.
Don’t give up. At a certain point, your kids are old enough to do chores by themselves with supervision from you. After all, you need to inspect what you expect to ensure the chore is done and done well.
As a parent, one of my jobs is overseeing my children’s education, even participating in it as a teacher if needed. Essential to the success of my job is developing a relationship with my children’s teachers. The foundation of that parent teacher relationship is getting to know the teacher at every opportunity I have to chat with them. I also need to help the teacher get to know my child. I start the relationship by writing a letter to my children’s teachers each August.
Parents, kids, and chores are a hot topic for parents. Everyone wants kids to help around the house, but not everyone is sure how to make it happen. Sometimes it feels easier to do the chore ourselves instead of having a kid do it. After all, they will do it imperfectly. Sometimes they won’t remember to do it.
Having kids do chores at home is valuable to their future adult selves. They feel more competent and have a greater self-esteem. Because they are held responsible for being part of a community, their family, they exhibit responsibility in other areas of their lives.
To prevent, or at least reduce, the “I’m bored. Can I play on the XBox?” requests, I made a list of 100 simple outdoor adventures for my kids. Most of these can be done by kids without much assistance or supervision from adults. I plan on putting this list on the fridge in the kitchen as a replacement for our morning and afternoon lists for the school year. I left space at the end of the list in case the kids want to add more ideas. I also put check mark boxes in case they want to check off the activities they’ve done.
As a parent volunteer, I’ve written about the parent/teacher relationship and how to make it work well for your child. Today, Mitzi of Written Reality, mom and former school teacher shares her perspective as a teacher. As a lifelong learner, I loved the reminder to pursue learning for myself and of course, visit the library on a regular basis. I also appreciated the reminder that learning in the classroom starts at home with sleep, full bellies, and a peaceful start to the school morning.
More Parenting Tips from Bloggers
Curious about raising a toddler while pregnant? Not sure how to handle toddler tantrums without getting frustrated and angry yourself? Want to model kindness to your kids? Desperate to help your kid who is being bullied? 32 bloggers share their best tips to help you have the best parenting year ever.