My biggest struggle as a mom is self care. My needs don’t seem as important as those of my family. But I’m wrong. Unfortunately, it’s too easy to fall into the trap of putting ourselves last on the daily to do list. Until we end up sick and stressed out, no help to anyone.
We need to be first.
Why Moms Need Self Care Ideas
Moms are busy. We focus on taking care of the kids, managing the home, managing the finances, and juggling work responsibilities. Every mom has something extra in her life that can make all of this managing incredibly stressful at times: special needs kids, medical issues, aging parents, debt.
We feel guilty taking care of our needs. How can reading a good book be more important than spending time with our spouse or kids? We don’t really have to exercise, do we? We can do that later, when the kids sleep through the night, when the kids are in middle school, when the kids are high school.
No, we need to practice self care now. Years of putting ourselves last will lead to years of health issues like being overweight and depressed. It will lead to disfunctional relationships with our spouse and our kids at a time when we will need their physical help because our bodies are failing us because we failed to take care of ourselves.
Easy Self Care Ideas
Journal – I’m a big fan of journaling having done it most of the time since high school. Getting the stuff out of your head and onto paper frees up space and gives you time away from thinking about stuff.
Exercise – I’m also a big fan of exercise. Thanks to exercise, I went from being an overweight teenager to an adult who has maintained a steady weight through 7 pregnancies and 5 kids for more than 25 years. Whatever season I was in, I found a way to exercise.
Music – I love listening to music whether I’m working out, driving, cooking, or writing. We have a Sonos system in our home that allows me to play music from Pandora, CD’s on my computer, or music on my iPhone. I also have a number of CD’s loaded on my car’s stereo system for blasting when the kids are not in the car.
Get Creative – I’ve always had some sort of hobby, though I haven’t made them a priority until recently. I love taking photos, and I have plans to do some solo photo trips and trips with friends this year. I love knitting socks. There’s enough intricacy in knitting a sock to keep me occupied without taking too long. Recently, I’ve started coloring. Adult coloring books take me back to my painting days without the mess and need to clean up.
Time Alone – For my introverted self, this is absolutely essential. Running is one way I’ve gotten alone time, AND exercised at the same time. Getting up early is also good. Since I’m a blogger, I’m usually home alone for about 20 hours a week. However, I do balance this work time with the next idea.
Connect with Others – I am not a sit and chat kind of gal. I prefer to connect with others while doing an activity. Volunteering at my children’s school has been a great way to connect with other moms. I also have a core group of local blogging friends who I connect with online and offline, along with other groups of bloggers I connect with online. I also make some time to connect with extended family. I need to make more time this year to connect offline since I’ve been a bit lazy about that recently.
Schedule Your Self Care
Guess what? If you don’t schedule time for yourself, you’re almost always going to put yourself last.
Just as you schedule well checks for yourself (you do that, don’t you?), schedule time for self care. Look at your schedule and think about opportunities to slice out some time just for you. Be creative. Arrive early at school pickup and color in an adult coloring book while you’re waiting the car. Or use the time to connect with a friend, your sister, or your mom.
Use different blocks of time. You may only have 10 to 15 minutes at car pick up, and a whole hour in the morning before the kids wake up. See if you can swap babysitting with another mom once a week giving you an hour or so every other week. Use your lunch time while at work. The time is there. You just need to make it time for you.
Talk to your husband about time for you. He knows you need to spend time being a person, not just a mom. While you’re talking, talk about ways to spend time together as a couple. He is the first person on your “people to connect” with list.
The fun sticky notes and heart labels in the Erin Condren Valentine Bundle are perfect for scheduling time for your self care on your calendar. The heart reminds you that self care = loving yourself. Use the compliment cards to boost you on a stressful day, or use them to boost a friend when they need extra love. The square sticky notes are the perfect size for inspirational quotes.
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