Even as an introvert, I value relationships, especially with my “girl” friends. Lauryn of The Vintage Mom is one of those girl friends I’ve met on my blogging journey that I’ve come to love so much. She’s always so enthusiastic and down to earth! Today she’s sharing a piece about childhood friendships and their endurance in our lives as adults.
We all have that friend, you know the one that you met when you were 5. Or even younger. Maybe you were in playgroup together, maybe your moms were friends and you would see each other and play together at length occasionally while they were chatting. Regardless of how often you saw them or how far apart you grew over the years, they are friends that I am sure you have never forgotten. I was lucky. I grew up in a wonderful neighborhood with a mother that took me to playgroups and helped me establish those early friendships. Thirty some years later, I am more grateful than when I was young. None of these friends do I talk to on a regular basis but they are all ones that are forever engrained in my memory.
Recently a childhood friend of mine, my very best friend from when I was young, shared that she was going through a challenging time. Our moms remain good friends and so even though we haven’t spoken much over the years as we have grown apart (for no other reason than just different interests and location) we have stayed in touch and up to date through our mothers.
As I chatted with her the other night about this real life nightmare of hers (one that every one of us thinks about), I realized how important it is to cherish those bonding relationships that we come across throughout our lives. There are some people in this world that you do not necessarily choose but that you fall into a friendship with because of luck. It is hard to put into words the importance of these relationships. We spent years of our lives together, countless nights sleeping over each others houses, endless laughs and fun, and shared birthdays and family events together. We called each other every Christmas morning to see what we had gotten from Santa. It is a bond that is unlike many others that happen in life. One that starts early and gives us a natural support that we never know that we need.
Life certainly moves on, but friends that I have met and shared important events with and have been a part of my growing and experiencing the world are some of the most cherished that I have. These may be silent friendships, but I firmly believe that having strong thoughts from others, you could even say prayers, are powerful. There is something to be said for these friends. These are the friends that are there for you no matter what, when your life feels like is falling apart, when you just need someone to talk to (not give you advice).
I have many of these friends; those playgroup peeps, the ones that I went to grade school with, a friend that became my best as I entered H.S., my college girls that forever will understand me for me, the friend I randomly met as I moved into my first home and needed a friend, and and the women that have helped me raise my children. This snowball effect of gathering friends as momentum builds in life and deepening relationships in numerous ways, this is to be cherished.
So as I reflect today, I find myself thankful for these friends, all of them, because my life would truly not be whole without them. I can only hope that my children will build these relationships as I have and feel the sense of comfort and appreciation for the network that they have to lean on as they grow older.
Do you have childhood friends you’ve stayed in touch with?
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