I’ve seen the phrases ‘”needs vs wants” and “having enough” thrown around in posts about frugality, books about frugality, conversations about frugality. While I love these phrases, and I think they’re a great starting point for someone new to frugality, I don’t think they capture the personal growth involved in becoming frugal.
It’s not about being frugal per se. Yes, some of us are more naturally inclined to be savers. husbanding our resources for a rainy day. Let’s not neglect the more expansive of us who want to enjoy what we have because today is the day we have to be who we are.
The operating word for me is “becoming.”
We become frugal over time. We make choices over time, evaluate them, learn from them, and hopefully make better choices the next time.
It’s also about being “intentional.”
Where are our choices leading us? Is it towards paying off our mortgage early, or is it because we have a dream of visiting every single country? Both are legitimate choices when accomplished in a financially responsible manner.
Finally, it’s about feeling “balanced.”
Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.