This post was first published in July 2012.
Being a mom is hard. Besides the physical labor, it’s hard on our emotions, our patience. We feel taken for granted sometimes, even by our husbands. While coming up with the hardest things about my life as a mom wasn’t easy since I’m not a negative person by nature, potty training, the bane of my existence, made it on the list.
5 Hardest Things About Being a Mom
1. Patience is one of the hardest things for me as a mom.
My pastor often reminds me that I want perfection. I know I do. I constantly twitch the cutting board back in place on the kitchen counter. I know kids make messes, and need lots of room to create. I know my schedule is not always their schedule. I get frustrated when I’m in the shower, and the kids come to tattle on each other.
Apparently God has given me what he thinks I can handle with 5 kids. It’s up to me to ask Him and others for help, and to admit that patience is not my strong suit.
2. I also struggle with socializing and friendships as a mom.
I wrote about a recent experience, and may lose a friend as a result. To be honest, I over reacted. I was right in my feelings, not in how I handled them. I shared my experience and found I wasn’t the only one.
Because I’m still in the season of little ones, it hurts to lose a friend though I’m not sure if we were ever on the same page when it came to friendship. I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and evaluating of the past. I’m positive God was preparing me for the closing of this door weeks before it happened, and reminding me that he’ll open a window elsewhere.
In the meantime, I’m continuing to put myself out there and be open to meeting new people.
3. I struggle with being defined as “only a mom.”
Many people in my real life know me as a mom of 5 kids and nothing else. I’ve been home for about 11 years now. I still remember my working days and the intellectual stimulation. I’m finding the same stimulation in some of my real life friendships and the ones I’ve made through a local blogging group, the Philly Social Media Moms.
I want my kids to see me as a mom who read books, wrote, ran, and took them to fun places. I want them to remember us having adventures together. I want them to see me going after my goals with a passion.
4. I’m not sure how to be a mom of a daughter.
I love my mom dearly, and while I won’t share our lives together here, I will say that she did the best she could with what she had, and she is an amazing woman. I’m getting to know her in a whole new way in the past few years. I wish I had made the space for her much earlier, though we are two peas in a pod when it comes to a lot of stuff.
Maybe I’m not sure what it looks like to be a mom of a daughter. I don’t know what it looks like to be a mom of a son since I never had brothers. I just think boys are different. They’re wonderful, but they’re not us. They’re not girls growing up into women.
5. I hate potty training. I hate it so much I often put it off until much later than everyone else. Honestly.
What are the 5 hardest things for you as a mom?